Couples Therapy, Individual Counselling, Qualified Psychotherapist
Daniel Dias Dip. Couns. MBACP
Hello, my name is Daniel Dias, I am a trained couples therapist and professionally qualified therapeutic counsellor. I offer resolution and solution focused brief couples therapy.
I use tried and tested tools designed to improve communication and intimacy, tools that identify your individual and relationship needs, tools that can repair breakdowns in trust and emotional connection.
My approach to couples therapy is straight forward, I put my heart and soul into my work, building open and honest relationships.
Communication problems.
Probably the single most frequent issue brought to couples therapy is communication.
Problems with being understood or misunderstood. Feeling invisible, not seen, and not heard. That your opinion either doesn't matter or is wrong.
Language that can shame, gaslight, is designed to control, and make you feel less than.
Blame, criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, an inability to admit fault or say sorry, can all contribute to a breakdown in couples communication.
Cultural Differences
Cultural differences can add both richness and complexity to a relationship.
Partners from different cultural backgrounds may have diverse perspectives on family roles, traditions, values, and communication styles.
While these differences can enrich your relationship, they can also lead to misunderstandings or conflicts if not navigated thoughtfully.
Balance your family expectations, celebrate your cultural diversity, build a strong and culturally aware relationship.
Intimacy and sex
Inevitably a couples relationship with intimacy and sex will change over time and most couples will experience a sexless period at sometime.
Mismatched libidos, frequency, emotional disconnection, vulnerability, insecurity, dysfunction, arousal, boredom, variety, stress, trauma, parenthood, and body image may all have a negative impact on a couples sex life.
It is not uncommon to find it difficult to talk about sex, a shyness about expressing our fantasies and needs.
Often there is a different interpretation of intimacy and sex.
Individual and relationship needs.
There is you, there is me, and then there is us, and all have individual needs. If you're OK, if I'm OK, then we're OK.
Communicating you indivudual and relationship needs in a relationship can be problematical as often couples try to mind read eachother and expressing needs can trigger anxiety responces and defence mechanisms.
Couples therapy is the perfect space to explore both individual and realtionship needs. An opportunity for a third person to relfect upon how the your needs are both expressed and received.
Trust, honesty, and infidelity
Trust and honesty are the foundations upon which many a strong relationship is built.
Foundations if shaken, by dishonesty, betrayal, or infidelity, can come crashing down.
Couples therapy offers a safe and supportive environment to begin the process of healing, rebuilding trust, and restoring emotional connection.
There was your relationship before the infidelity, breakdown in trust or honest. With what you know now, is it a to be a new beginning or the end.
Conflict resolution
Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but how couples handle conflict can make all the difference.
When disagreements escalate into arguments, unresolved issues, or emotional distance, it can strain even the strongest relationships.
Couples therapy provides a space to understand the root causes, develop communication tools, build solutions together, find new ways to prevent future conflict.
Parenting and family systems
Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet challenging aspects of a relationship.
Balancing the demands of raising children can test the happiest of couples.
Family dynamics, differing parenting styles, and external pressures can lead to conflicts and stress.
Differing cultural backgrounds, societal expectations, and formative experiences will all influence your family system.
Emotional disconnection
Emotional connection is the heartbeat of a healthy romantic relationship.
If your emotional connection starts to disconnect, you may start to feel isolated, invisible, and not heard.
Emotional disconnection often creeps in gradually, leading to a sense of distance that can be difficult to bridge.
Feelings of low self-worth, self-esteem, and confidence.
ADHD and Autism
Neurodivergence can pose a huge challenge for couples in a relationship, especially if its is late diagnosed.
Struggles with distractibility, impulsivity, emotional regulation, task completion, disorganisation, resentment, burnout, intimacy, and misunderstanding.
Difficulties with understanding social norms, taking things literally thereby missing non verbal cues or implied meanings, sensory sensitivity, expressions of love, and a mutual definition of feelings.
Friendship
Every relationship is different and no two peoples vision of a perfect relationship is the same. However, if there is one thing that seems to be common in most successful relationships it is deep friendship.
What does it mean to have a deep friendship, it is an unconditional positive regard for each other, one that is expressed with fondness, and not just through grand gestures but through small day in and day out moments of empathy, compassion, love, and connection.
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